Everyday Life Solutions

Do you need a solution about any problems for instance, coping with stress , depression or living a healthy life style then read this section for everyday life solutions

Combating Self Harm

What is self harm?

Self-harm or self injury refers to people deliberately hurting their bodies and is often done in secret without anyone else knowing. Some young people do it once, while others do it to cope with particularly stressful events or as a way of coping over time. When they feel pressured or distressed they self-harm; it becomes their habit for dealing with difficult emotions.

The most common type of self-harm among young people is cutting, but there are many other types of self-harm including burning or punching the body, or picking skin or sores. People who deliberately injure themselves are not trying to kill themselves, they are trying to find a way to cope with difficulties and distress.

Why do people Self Harm themselves?

Many young people describe self-harm as a way of coping with feeling numb, or intense pain, distress or unbearable negative feelings, thoughts or memories. They are trying to change how they feel by replacing their emotional pain or pressure with physical pain. Some people harm themselves because they feel alone, and hurting themselves is the only way they feel real or connected. Others self-harm to punish themselves due to feelings of guilt or shame or to ‘feel again’.

For most young people self-harm is a coping mechanism, not a suicide attempt. However, people who repeatedly self-harm may also begin to feel as though they cannot stop, and this may lead to feeling trapped, hopeless and suicidal. People who self-harm are also more likely than the general population to feel suicidal and to attempt suicide.

Self-harm can be something that someone tries once, or it can become a habit as they search for relief from distress. The problem is that this relief is only temporary, and the circumstances usually remain. Some common areas which may lead to self harm is:

1) Difficulties or disputes with parents

2) School or work problems

3) Anxiety

4) Depression

5) Relationship problems

6) Low self esteem

7) Bullying

8) Drug or Alcohol Abuse

9) Distress and Intense emotions

How to Combat or help people who self harm ?

1) Confide in someone

If you’re ready to get help for cutting or self-harm, the first step is to confide in another person. It can be scary to talk about the very thing you have worked so hard to hide, but it can also be a huge relief to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re going through.

Deciding whom you can trust with such personal information can be difficult. Choose someone who isn’t going to gossip or try to take control of your recovery. Ask yourself who in your life makes you feel accepted and supported. It could be a friend, teacher, religious leader, counselor, or relative. But you don’t necessarily have to choose someone you are close to.

Eventually, you’ll want to open up to your inner circle of friends and family members, but sometimes it’s easier to start by talking to an adult who you respect—such as a teacher, religious leader, or counselor – who has a little more distance from the situation and won’t find it as difficult to be objective.

2) Learn to manage overwhelming stress or emotions

Understanding why you cut or self-harm is a vital first step toward your recovery. If you can figure out what function your self-injury serves, you can learn other ways to get those needs met—which in turn can reduce your desire to hurt yourself.

3) Professional treatment for self harm

You may also need the help and support of a trained professional as you work to overcome the self-harm habit, so consider talking to a therapist. A therapist can help you develop new coping techniques and strategies to stop self-harming, while also helping you get to the root of why you cut or hurt yourself.

Remember, self-harm doesn’t occur in a vacuum. It’s an outward expression of inner pain—pain that often has its roots in early life. There is often a connection between self-harm and childhood trauma.
Self-harm may be your way of coping with feelings related to past abuse, flashbacks, negative feelings about your body, or other traumatic memories. This may be the case even if you’re not consciously aware of the connection.

Sources : Helpguide.com and beyondblue.org.au

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Feminism In India – Kalki Koechlin

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We were just skimming through twitter when we came across this image. We personally recommend for individual to read and understand this. Make a difference because India needs Feminism. Women should have the equal rights as men. They should be able to work, able to be educated, able to live and most of able to receive justice.  Society portrays women to be a vulnerable figure. A figure of which anyone can take advantage of. The most inhumane treatments would probably occur to women. It’s simply wrong and unnatural to kill baby girls. Why because they are not men? they can’t provide the parents with the happiness as a boy can? This is utter wrong. Today in different parts of the world, women are more successful, they have rights and they can achieve justice if injustice happens to them .  Please take a stand and help the women in India. We don’t want rapes, we don’t want murder, we don’t want women to be illiterate or not work. LLSB team is not comparing women to men but we think that both men and women should have equality in this society

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3 tips to clear acne

Everybody dreams of clear beautiful skin. However sometime due to stress, or skin allergies we may start to develop acne(pimples). Here is 3 home remedies in preventing acne so that you may have a clear, beautiful skin.

1) Wash your face twice a day. It is very important to keep your face clean when trying to prevent pimples. Washing your face removes dirt, impurities and any excess oil that has built up on the surface of your skin. Ideally, you should wash your face twice a day, in the morning and in the evening, using warm water and a mild facial cleanser. Use a clean dry towel to pat your face dry.

  • Avoid scrubbing your face with a rough wash cloth, sponge or loofah. This will only irritate the skin and cause pimples to become even more inflamed. Wash cloths may also harbor bacteria, which you want to avoid putting in contact with your face.
  • Even though you may be tempted to wash your face more than twice a day if you’re suffering from pimples, be aware that this will not necessarily help your skin. Washing your face too often can dry out the skin and cause it to become irritated.

2) Use exfoliating treatments and face masks once a week. Skin exfoliators and face masks are great products which can be very beneficial for the skin, but they should only be used sparingly. Exfoliators remove dead skin cells while effectively cleansing the skin, but can be dry out and irritate the skin if used to often, especially on pimple-prone skin.

  • Face masks are great for cleansing impurities and calming the skin, and can turn your regular skin care routine into a spa-like experience. Yet again, they should be limited to about once a week, as they may contain harsher ingredients that are not intended for everyday use.

3) Eat well and drink plenty of water. Although it’s been proven that chocolate and other junk food don’t actuallycause pimples, staying away from oily, greasy foods can still have a positive effect for your skin. Pimples form when excess oil clogs up your pores, so limiting the amount of oil that you put into your body in the first place is a step in the right direction. Plus, if your body is healthy on the inside, that will be reflected on the outside.

  • Stay away from foods like potato chips, chocolate, pizza and fries. These foods are high in fat, sugar and starch, which is not good news for your skin or your overall health. You don’t need to deprive yourself completely, just try to limit your intake a little.
  • Eat plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables. Their water content helps to hydrate the skin while their vitamins and minerals give your body the ammunition it needs to fight pimples. In particular, try to eat fruit and veg with a high vitamin A content (such as broccoli, spinach and carrots) as this helps to flush acne-causing proteins from the system, and with high vitamin E and C contents (oranges, tomatoes, sweet potatoes, avocados) which have antioxidant effects and help to calm the skin.

 

Source : Wikihow.com

 

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5 ways to improve hair growth

Hair loss is probably a common problem among-est each individual. Therefore we have decided to share with you 5 home remedies on how to improve hair growth. It’s simple, effective and efficient.

 

1) Have a good Diet.

Sometime we become lazy and we eat junk, fatty food. Well everyone is tempted to eat fatty foods however in order to improve your hair growth you need a good diet with a balance of nutritious food. We recommend our readers to eat healthy and exercise.

 

2) Drink Plenty of Water.

Beside hair growth, their is plenty benefits of drinking water. It gives you  good skin, good mood, increases immune system and many more.

 

3) Wear your hair in a braid as much as possible.

t works insanely well. You could wear braids when you go to bed. Your hair length retention will probably double AT LEAST! Just don’t weave the braids too tight because it can cause damage. Make sure to get your hair trimmed if you do this.

 

4) Do not use heat related products.

This has to do with your overall hair health. And the healthier your hair, the faster it will grow. If you do use heat products, try to use a heat protector spray. You can get this at your local pharmacy, grocery store, or target.

 

5) Try hair growth products and oil your hair. 

We definitely know that Indians have long, thick and beautiful hair because they tend to oil there hair. We personally think coconut oil is the best to moisturize your hair but any other oil products will do.

 

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You Tell Us

You Tell Us

We have thought about new ways to update and modify our blog. One of our aims is to entertain you and to keep you inspired and motivated. Therefore we have decided to introduce a new concept: “You Tell Us.”

We are not sure if this will work but it’s worth a try. We understand that life is not easy at times. We understand that each individuals go through problems and hardship and sometimes you may be hesitant in sharing your feelings or unsure of a way to resolve your issue.

Therefore we would kindly like to suggest to you to send us a message or comment below about the issue that you would like for us to try and resolve and motivate you. We are a reliable and trustworthy site. We promise that we will not identify your name when we post resolutions to certain problems ie; depression. We promise that you will remain anonymous.

No one deserves to be upset, miserable, confused and unhappy in their lives. Our aim is to motivate, inspire and help you to live a happy, healthy and positive life.

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7 way to cope with depression

1. Identify whether or not you have depression and seek help if necessary:

There are many common symptoms associated with depression. If you identify with one or more of those listed below, seek advice from your doctor. Signs of depression include

  • Finding thinking or concentrating difficult, “foggy” thinking, inability to make clear decisions or forgetfulness
  • Pessimism, or feeling a sense that life is hopeless, pointless and futile This may even lead to a feeling of numbness
  • Body pains, cramps, digestive problems, headaches, and other aches that don’t go away with medication or treatment
  • Being irritable or restless a great deal of the time
  • Suicidal thoughts, thoughts about dying, or attempts at suicide

2. Ask your doctor to explore possible medical causes behind your depression.

Some depression results from, or is a side effect of, medical conditions or treatment for other medical conditions.It’s important for your doctor to identify any physical causes for depression that require specific treatments or to eliminate other reasons for your condition. Common medical conditions that might trigger depression include:

  • Thyroid problems, hormonal imbalances (including pre-menstrual) or disease.
  • Medications. The side effects of some medications include depression. Read the warning labels and talk with your doctor about any concerns you might have.
  • Addictions to alcohol or other drugs.
  • Genetic links to depression

3. Start your journey to wellness.

 it’s important to view getting well as a journey of gradual steps, rather than something with an instant cure. There will be times that your determination is challenged by self-questioning and despair, but this is precisely when you must do your best to avoid being “depressed about being depressed!” Here are good ways to start:

  • List the things that are bothering you outside of your depression. It could be unpaid bills, a lack of vacations or a tough job. In another column, write down some practical things that you think you can do to deal with the things that are bothering you. 
  • Be gentle on yourself. Life isn’t a race or a competition. The reality is that you matter, you have great value as a person and making things harder for yourself is akin to beating yourself up. Avoid obsessing about your depression or creating a shrine to it to hide behind when things all seem to hard. The feedback loop of hopelessness and despair created by being angry with yourself for being depressed will deepen your despair. Go back to naming your beast and setting it apart from who you are. Accept the journey to wellness is a matter of baby steps.

4. Research About Depression 

Learn what you can about depression. You don’t have to, and indeed should not, rely only on what the medical professionals tell you about the illness. Knowledge is an important way to reassure yourself that depression is real, that it is a concern to be treated with seriousness and that there are many ways to defeat it.

  • Visit your local library and borrow books about depression, anxiety, and happiness. Look in the psychology, self-help, therapy, and medical sections. For youth, ask about books specifically written for teenagers and children (children do get depression). You can also look at online auctions or book sites for affordable books about depression.
  • Visit trusted online resources targeted at your population. Government and national institutes set up for mental health treatment are reliable sources of information.
  • Helping recovery from depression through reading is referred to as “bibliotherapy”. If you’re motivated enough to take this path of recovery, it can be very beneficial. This method seems to be well suited to people who always turn to research as a way of answering anything they’re experiencing in life.

4. Keep a Journal 

Document your feelings somewhere personal and completely private. This will be the place where you let out your darkest thoughts, no holds barred, because you don’t need to worry that anyone will judge you for them. A diary can become your collaborator in the struggle against your depression because it eventually provides you with great evidence of what improves your mood as well as what brings it down

5. Take Care of your body

Your body needs to be well-nourished, well-rested, and cherished. If you’ve been neglecting it or pushing it too far, you will pay a price and part of that will result in lowered resiliency and openness to depressive thoughts.

6. Maintain a good support network. 

Support from people who love and care about you is an important part of the healing process. Tell people you trust that you’re depressed and would appreciate their understanding and sympathy.

  • Realize that some people will find this confrontational or upsetting if they’re also feeling down, and others may be dismissive. You’ll need to reach a decision yourself as to whether it’s worth explaining things further with them, or whether it’s just best to stay away from them until you’re more resilient.
  • Be willing to be honest about your irritability and reclusive behavior with those you trust. They need to know it’s not personal, but that you need space or time out every now and then.

7.  Change your thinking 

  • Acknowledge the feeling will pass. This can be a very difficult step, but it’s vital because it helps you to start banishing thoughts of hopelessness.
  • List all of your good points. When you’re depressed, it’s easy to understate the positive things about yourself. Turn this around by listing everything that is good about you. Include achievements from the past and hopes for the future, however few or random they may seem. If you can’t write this list, have a trusted friend or family member start one for you. This is a list to keep building upon as you work through your depression. Self-acceptance is a vital part of recovering from depression because you acknowledge that there are good things about yourself, but also that you cannot be perfect. This will help you stop judging yourself more harshly than anyone else.
  • Make decisions, however small, and act on them. Again, while this is very difficult to do during depression, it is a vital element in facing the sense of helplessness that tends to overwhelm depressed persons.Small decisions like getting out of bed, calling friends or cleaning up the kitchen all add up. Once you act on them, they become achievements.

 

Source: WikiHow.com

Bars & Melody – Simon Cowell’s Golden Buzzer act | Britain’s Got Talent

This is amazing. Today the music of the day is by these two lovely young kids. What i most loved about this video is that it is emotional and meaningful. A young child, writes his own raps based on his experience with bullying. I urge each and every individual to watch this video. if you know anyone who is currently facing bullying or any kind of violence or discrimination in their lives, then stand up, help them. Say No to Bullying

Help for parents with troubled teenagers

Today this post will be about how to help parents with troubled teenagers. Well firstly may i say that parenting is never an easy job and especially with teenagers. Sometimes your growing teen may be depressed, violent, abusive into alcohol or drugs, or maybe perhaps they might be engaging in reckless behavior. You may feel exhausted from lying awake at night worrying about where your child is, who he or she is with, and what they’re doing. You may despair over failed attempts to communicate, the endless fights, and the open defiance. Or you may live in fear of your teen’s violent mood swings and explosive anger. While parenting a troubled teen can often seem like an impossible task, there are steps you can take to ease the chaos at home and help your teen transition into a happy, successful young adult.

 

The Beginning 

As teenagers start to grow up and find their identity and independence in this world , they may experience behavioral changes that can seem bizarre and unpredictable to parents. You may now start to think, What happened to my sweet, adorable obedient child whom i couldn’t live a minute without but now my child doesn’t want to be seen near me or greets everything I say with a roll of the eyes or the slam of a door? Well unfortunately,theses are the actions of a normal teenager. . A troubled teen faces behavioral, emotional, or learning problems beyond the normal teenage issues. They may repeatedly practice at-risk behaviors such as violence, skipping school, drinking, drug use, sex, self-harming, shoplifting, or other criminal acts. Or they may exhibit symptoms of mental health problems like depression, anxiety, or eating disorders. Therefore I want to emphasize the point that parents should understand how important it is to be cautious of a normal adolescent behavior which may normal during adolescent development, and which can point to more serious problems.normal during adolescent development, and which can point to more serious problems. lead to a serious problem. 

Warning Signs of a Troubled Teenager 

1) Changing appearance can be a red flag if it’s accompanied by problems at school or other negative changes in behavior, or if there’s evidence of cutting and self-harm or extreme weight loss or weight gain.

2)Constant escalation of arguments, violence at home, skipping school, getting in fights, and run-ins with the law are all red flag behaviors that go beyond the norm of teenage rebellion.

3)Rapid changes in personality, falling grades, persistent sadness, anxiety, or sleep problems could indicate depressionbullying, or another emotional health issue. Take any talk about suicide seriously.

4) When alcohol or drug use becomes habitual, especially when it’s accompanied by problems at school or home, it may indicate a substance abuse issue or other underlying problems.

5)Red flags include a sudden change in peer group (especially if the new friends encourage negative behavior), refusing to comply with reasonable rules and boundaries, or avoiding the consequences of bad behavior by lying. Your teen spending too much time alone can also indicate problems.

Seeking Help 

If your child has one of the following warning signs of a troubled teenagers above then you must take action ASAP. Consult a counselor, therapist, or other mental health professional for help finding appropriate treatment. Whatever problems your teen is experiencing, it is not a sign that you’ve somehow failed as a parent. Instead of trying to assign blame for the situation, focus on your teen’s current needs. The first step to doing this is to find a way to connect with him or her.  To open the lines of communication you must :

1) Be aware of your own stress levels. If you’re angry or upset, now is not the time to try to communicate with your teen. Wait until you’re calm and energized before starting a conversation. You’re likely to need all the patience and positive energy you can muster.

2) Be there for your teen. An offer to chat with your teen over coffee will probably be greeted with a sarcastic put-down or dismissive gesture, but it’s important to show you’re available. Insist on sitting down for mealtimes together with no TV or other distractions, and attempt to talk to your teen then. Don’t get frustrated if your efforts are greeted by nothing more than monosyllabic grunts or shrugs; you may have to eat a lot of dinners in silence, but when your teen does want to open up, he or she will have the opportunity to do so.

3) Expect rejection. Your attempts to connect with your teen may often be met with anger, irritation, or other negative reactions. Stay relaxed and allow your teen space to cool off. Try again later when you’re both calm. Successfully connecting to your teen will take time and effort. Don’t be put off; persevere and the breakthrough will come.

4) Encourage exercise. Even a little regular exercise can help ease depression, boost energy and mood, relieve stress, regulate sleep patterns, and improve your teen’s self esteem. If you struggle getting your teen to do anything but play video games, encourage him or her to play activity-based video games or “exergames” that are played standing up and moving around simulating dancing, skateboarding, soccer, or tennis, for example. Once exercise becomes a habit, encourage your teen to try the real sport or to join a club or team.

5) Ensure your teen gets enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can make a teen stressed, moody, irritable, and lethargic, and cause problems with weight, memory, concentration, decision-making, and immunity from illness. You might be able to get by on six hours a night and still function at work, but your teen needs 8.5 to 10 hours of sleep a night to be mentally sharp and emotionally balanced. Encourage better sleep by setting consistent bedtimes, and removing TVs, computers, and other electronic gadgets from your teen’s room. the light from these suppresses melatonin production and stimulates the mind, rather than relaxing it. Suggest your teen tries listening to music or audio books at bedtime instead.

6) Take care of your self. Don’t be stressed and try to take care of both your health and you childrens health 

 

I hope this helps every parent out there. And I hope these solutions are sufficient enough to give you an understanding of the teenage behavior. 

Main Source: HelpGuide.org 

 

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Social Media Say What?

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As requested by a friend, I wanted to discuss the impact of social media on today’s growing India. It’s become something of a neccesity nowadays, despite the fact that there are a large fraction that don’t even know how to use it effectively or even for the intended purpose. But that being said, I applaud those who have found new and inventive ways to adapt it to Indian culture, and let me just add, they are absolutely milking the large fanbase they have acquired!

This brings to mind a funny incident I witnessed, and continue to witness on a daily basis. I don’t know whether out of innocence or ignorance that people actually think that sharing something a certain amount of times, or liking it, will actually change someone’s life. You know what I’m on about! Those ‘300 likes in 20 seconds can save this girl’s life’ or ‘Like to…

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Has the 21st century children lost their true indian cultural beliefs?

Has the 21st century children lost their true indian cultural beliefs? Some may say some may say no. I personally find it eccentric if people believe that the children of 21st century has not lost their true indian cultural beliefs. Children today are becoming influenced by all sorts of things like social media, friendship groups, television,hollywood or maybe even bollywood.

These influential things in my opinion maybe bad in certain ways but good in certain ways, for example:Children are starting to adapt to the English Language. May i say learning english and understanding it is brilliant. I am highly found of literature , however despite knowing english, children are forgetting their mother tongue. Whether it be urdu, hindi, bengali, tamil,Gujrati they are forgetting their heritage and their language which makes them unique in this beautiful world. I dislike the fact that children are not understanding the essence and meaning behind learning and understanding their mother tongue. 

My next point is bollywood. Today god knows how bollywood is influencing our children. Back in the good old days around the 1990’s the time I was born, we had great new hindi movies releasing with great story plot lines and most of all their wasn’t any vulgar or sexual scenes. Movies back then was appropriate for all ages to watch. However if skip ahead in time and come to the year 2014, all we see on screen in bollywood films is half naked girls, actors and actress having sex, actors and actress kissing, actress wearing half naked clothes and I can just go on about. Where is the good old bollywood films? The good old traditional films with amazing story plot lines which wasn’t cliched to watch. Where is it all? It’s gone all down the drain. The indian culture is about being traditional, respectful in attitude and in what you wear. As an indian I understand the exposure of half naked skin is bad. Being half naked doesn’t mean your hot or sexy it means your lame and retarded from the brain.

As a woman I personally think our bodies is for our future husbands to see not any random guy or men and I think the same goes for men . So basically children who watch bollywood are becoming influenced by this. It disgusts me to say children walking in half naked clothes, smoking, drinking, partying, not having respect for their culture or elders and most of all assuming loosing their virginity at a young age is good. Reality check to the children of the 21st century, if you think what i stated above is true then you need serious help because what you do bad at a young age can make you regret your actions whether it be in the present or future. Another point to ponder upon is why the hell is children at a young age getting into relationships. What the heck is wrong with you. You are just a child.

Appreciate what your mother and father do for you. They make sure you have a good education, then why do you do stupid things by hiding to them that your in a relationship with someone else who is like 20000000000000 km away from you. Stop lying to your parents, start appreciating them ,respecting them, start becoming more studious towards your studies so that you can make your future easy and not difficult. Hence i say the children of the 21st century have lost their true indian cultural beliefs by the influential things surrounding us. 

I conclude by saying to all the parents throughout the world, please don’t make your children loose their true indian cultural beliefs. Make them understand their culture is a significant part to them, its make them who they are, it makes them unique and beautiful. 

 

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